I hit rock bottom four years ago.
It was Halloween 2018 when two of my guy friends were killed in a car accident. Then one girl from my high school committed suicide, and another from Reveal High School.
I saw the effect that those tragedies had on all of the students and also on me. I almost didn’t graduate from high school because I started skipping classes because of how depressed I got.
In my senior year of high school, I had an interest from Chapman University to join their women’s soccer program. I saw soccer in my future.
Unfortunately, though I did not end up committing because my GPA was below what they were asking. I saw my future vanish. I didn’t have a plan, a future; I saw no point in being here. I questioned whether I wanted to continue living.
Helping athletes and hearing their stories is what kept me going.
I thought my world was ending. I didn’t have a future with soccer; I didn’t know my future. But speaking to all of these players gave me purpose.
I learned, “It’s ok to not be ok.”
We had the 49ers come to our school to talk about mental health. These guys were grown men and never showed emotion.
There is this stereotype that men can’t show emotions. So you never see it. But I saw these players get emotional, which showed me that I wasn’t alone. They showed me that being emotional is a strength, not a weakness.
Being on a football team in high school, I saw how this mindset of athletes, putting everything aside once you step onto the field because you have to look tough, affects athletes.
Football players especially have to have a tough mindset where they can’t show emotions on the field.
One day I was practicing field goals before a game, and none of them were going in. Something was going on in my mind that I just couldn’t brush to the side.
And I remember walking off the field, taking my helmet off, and walking to the bench. My coach could tell I was upset, so he came up to me and asked what was going on with me.
I just broke down in tears. I couldn’t hold my emotions inside anymore. Because whether you are a female or male football player, you have to look tough on the field.
But I learned that showing emotion is not a sign of weakness; it signifies strength and bravery. And I wanted athletes to know that.
That’s when I started “Safe Space”- a youth organization spreading awareness for mental health among athletes. I became a speaker for the organization and traveled to different school districts, hoping to impact the athletes and their families.
The change was seen- we got mental health professionals, counselors at all of our district schools and other districts in the Bay area (private or public).
I would talk to sports teams and try to educate them on mental health. I would also speak at my football games to the parents of these athletes.
I expressed the importance of having those hard conversations with their child (about suicide or mental health disorders).
I found a purpose to keep living.
My purpose was to help others.
I saw life is worth living.
Live each day with a grateful heart because it can change in an instant.
The Freeman Era Difference
Verbal general or coaching revolutionary? Analyzing the approach of new Notre Dame Football Head Coach, Marcus Freeman.
If you are a Notre Dame fan or just interested in reading our write-up on the recent coaching change out of South Bend, I promise we will get to that, but I want to start here.
I want to start with a story about Bill Buckner.
For those unacquainted, Bill Buckner let a ground ball go through his legs in the 1986 Worlds Series for our younger audience.
After the error, the Mets would defeat the Red Sox, Buckner’s team, and claim the title in game 7.
Buckner would be the most excellent scapegoat in sports of the 20th century.
However, disturbingly enough, Buckner, two weeks before the series with the Mets in an interview with Don Shane from WBZ-TV, said, “The dreams are that you’re going to have a great series and win. The nightmares are that you are going to let the winning run score on a ground ball through your legs.”
To squash all assumptions, no, this story is not about manifestation.
It’s about mentality.
Marcus Freeman, a week ago, took over as the head football coach for Notre Dame.
In his opening statement to the media upon accepting this most prestigious position, Freeman did anything but what the media has seen over the years.
Instead of promising championship runs and accomplishing unimaginable feats, Freeman, in his opening remarks, made clear that his primary concern was to ensure that everyone knew that the primary driver of success for Notre Dame Football would be the players.
“Being the leader of this program is about understanding that to be successful on this journey, it’s going to take others, and we’re going to have to do this as a team.”
Freeman, above all, has maintained the view that at the heart of Notre Dame football is a set of values reflective of the university’s education and institution.
When we generally look at the broader population of collegiate athletes, the identity of the players, fans, coaches, and community is that they came here to play sports.
But Freeman has reminded his players and the nation that athletes, despite previous identities, do not come to Notre Dame to play football.
They don’t even come to contribute to change.
They come to be changed by Notre Dame.
Freeman has taken the typical achievement-based reward system within sports that convince athletes that they’ll only receive love, acceptance, and notoriety from on-field success and now challenges the men in his program to see themselves as a part of something much bigger than football.
Yes, football is important. And Freeman doesn’t take that for granted.
But as the “players coach,” he reminds his team and us all that football is just something they do.
The overall manner in which his team handles themselves academically, socially, and spiritually is what he seems to demand the high standards of most.
Wins and national championships will be the byproduct of developing mentally consistent and strong players.
Although Marcus Freeman could be some verbal general or someone who knows how to say all the right things, Freeman seems to truly understand the depth of an athlete’s mind beyond most.
So back to Buckner for a moment.
Buckner’s nightmare comments made shortly before making one of the most unforgettable errors in baseball history raise the question that making that error was not one of his worst nightmares. Would the outcome be different that night?
None of us can answer that.
However, I believe athletes’ identities mustn’t be contingent upon the results of a game.
As Marcus Freeman makes his debut shortly in the Fiesta Bowl, could Notre Dame’s new leader bring the Irish their national championship with the approach to developing high-level people before athletes?
In the spirit of sport romanticism, boy, I hope so.
You can catch Marcus Freeman’s debut on January 1, 2022, as Oklahoma State takes on Notre Dame on ESPN.
We wish you all a very happy and blessed holiday season!
The Benefits to Being a Dual-Sport Athlete
Learn Why Being a Dual Sport Athlete Could Change Your Career
After watching Kyler Murray put on an absolute clinic on Sunday against the Minnesota Vikings, it is clear his athletic capabilities range further than football. Dual sports athletes challenge themselves both physically and mentally through various modalities that include individual and team-based play. These athletes have multiple interests that lead them into different athletic categories. Dual Sport Athlete Kyler Murray played both football and baseball, even being offered to play both professionally.
One benefit of being a dual-sport athlete is the ability for an individual to master two completely different skill sets by practicing seemingly unrelated activities or hobbies until they become second nature. Kyler Murray played both football and baseball while attending the University of Oklahoma. While playing these two separate sports, he improved his physical abilities by utilizing the training techniques of one sport in another. Dual sports athletes are skilled in more than just one discipline, so they can combine their skillsets when necessary, whether that is during practice or game time; this is how dual-sport athlete Kyler Murray has found success on the field in both sports.
This past weekend, Murray demonstrated the athleticism and poise being a dual-sport athlete brings. While under intense pressure from the Viking’s Defense, Murray scrambled back in the pocket and, throwing side-arm, heaved an incredible pass 35 yards to wide receiver Christian Kirk. The pass would lead to a Cardinal’s touchdown. Ultimately, the Arizona Cardinals would beat the Minnesota Vikings by just 1 point.
It is understandable why athletes today spend so much time dedicated to just one sport. Recruiting and competition to play at the next level is at an all-time high. However, the prospects of playing multiple sports, especially at the high school level, could pay dividends later on. And if you don’t believe Kyler or us, Vanderbilt Head Baseball Coach Tim Corbin has been known notoriously for recruiting dual-sport athletes for their “athletic” capabilities and prowess.
The Power of Change in Life and in Sports
Sometimes in sports its bend or be broken
Football, to me, has always been on my mind. My dad played division 1 college football, so I grew up dreaming of doing the same. I’ve always dreamed that, Lord willing, I can play professionally. This dream was what motivated me. That was, however, until my sophomore year, when I thought my dreams were crashing down.
Back then, I played wide receiver. I was getting frustrated because I was not getting any touches. I was not getting thrown to, and I was getting discouraged.
I was fresh off of going to State for hurdles in track, and due to this frustration, I contemplated focusing on that because I was no longer enjoying the sport I loved growing up.
My frustrations kept boiling, but then my coach made a decision that changed my life.
In the middle of the season, my coach made me switch positions to running back right before a JV game. At first, I wanted no part of it. I did not think I would have any more fun at this position than at wide receiver.
However, once the game started, though, I realized I could not have been more wrong. I thrived at running back. I loved it. That one game reignited my love for the sport of football, and I started to excel in it. After running back that whole year, I came back my junior year and won the starting job. The rest, as they say, is history.
I had a pretty solid junior campaign. As a result of that, my recruitment started to pick up. Currently, I am very close to my first offer, and I am beyond excited for what my senior season holds.